So I dunno if y’all know this about me, but I listen to a good little handful of podcasts. The ones I try my best to…
Yellowcard, The Epic
This is the story of my 11 or 12 year love -affair with Yellowcard:
Wednesday I went to see…
Throwing Shade at Black Cat
Well, well. DC got a tiny bit cooler last night. And not just this freakishly amazing August…
Photos- US Air Guitar Semi-Finals Washington DC
So photos in a dark venue don’t always come out well. Thanks to my friend Dani for getting some…
The South. Alright, yeah, if you plan a big fancy dinner party the staffing company will ask if you want an all-black serving crew. Sure, there are people who are openly hateful because you look/act differently than them.
But I actually agree with Deen on some of her views of the South. I grew up in Virginia, my folks are from very southern VA, just before the NC border. The South is a less racist than other places in the US BECAUSE it’s more overt there. It’s on people’s lips, it’s hanging in the windows, pasted to the bumper of trucks, it’s on a plaque at a battlefield and cut into a statue at the courthouse.
Because people like Deen are used to saying certain things aloud, are extremely aware of the history of Jim Crow and slavery, it makes conversation possible. I lived in California for a long time and no one ever wanted to say anything about anything that may be even the slightest bit controversial. What I’d consider to be just a conversation was considered an argument there because differing opinions were best kept quiet. Best talked about behind closed doors, with friends and family to make sure personal opinions were PC enough to discuss. It took me a while to get used to that and I got a lot of shit for being too in-your-face.
Fuck that. Deen said something run-of-the-mill for old white southern people and a company like Food Network, based somewhere in California I’d guess, crucified her for it. I’m not defending her. I can’t even look at her face and hear her voice without just KNOWING she’d absorbed the Jim Crow mentality. But to completely ignore the fact that THIS IS HOW WHITE PEOPLE IN THE SOUTH THINK isn’t fucking helpful.California’s ignore-it-and-it’ll-go-away version of dealing with conflicting worldviews will only perpetuate them.
So. As a black woman whose folks grew up picking tobacco and came of age during Jim Crow, how do I get through a damn day knowing and seeing the white-is-right mentality perpetuated silently? I speak the fuck up about it. Also, I see in my similarly-aged colleagues a real dislike of the idea of hierarchical structure. No one person is better than any other for any reason. This mentality will eventually spill over into governmental and social policy and life. We’re just waiting for all the old folks to drop off.
So maybe we can all just hold for a minute on being “disgusted” by Paula Deen and take it as a learning moment. People think like this. Like, millions of people. What are we gonna do about it?